Have you ever found yourself in a traffic jam? After weaving your way through, you may often discover that some drivers are holding up traffic due to (distractions) cell phones, applying makeup, or reading. Have you ever been in a relationship or currently involved in one that is at a standstill? What distractions do you have that’s keeping you and your partner from moving forward?
Constant use of the cell phone, social networking, taking “selfies”, watching television, headphones, or constantly playing video games are a few distractions that can keep a relationship from moving forward. These things are not bad for us but should be used in moderation. Communication, quality time, and intimacy are disrupted when you are constantly in tune with technology and out of sync with your partner. This eventually leads to someone in the relationship feeling neglected or depreciated.
For example, I understand when Jonathan wants to watch the Heat play but when he wants to watch two or three games for the rest of the night, it can become an issue. It’s important to make time to connect with your partner and disconnect from your gadgets.
We live in a day and age where it is difficult to power down our phone or keep it fully charged. Technology is constantly powering down relationships. It allows us to connect to the world but often times disconnect from each other. How many times have you and your partner been in the same room, no words to one another, engaged in some form of technology? You may know every Facebook status update but don’t even know how your partner’s day went.
Is technology preventing you from getting into a relationship? Someone may be out at a grocery store trying to make eye contact with you but your eyes are focused on your phone. You may be on a new date but your attention is caught up in the latest gossip or trying to see whose winning a game.
Whether it’s your phone, tablet, laptop, video game, television, or any other type of technology; don’t allow it to hold up traffic in your relationship.
Keep your highway flowing to your partner so this won’t block their path towards you. This will allow you to reach the happiness destination that you both desire. So instead of constantly using your gadget or “Facebooking”; be sure to constantly “check-in” with your partner, “comment” in response to his or her conversation, “like” or accept your partner’s thoughts and feelings, and always “share” your love with one another!
Are there more than distractions that are holding up traffic? Bad attitudes, assumptions, or expectations can block a good relationship or someone from getting into one. Let’s discuss relationship roadblocks and how we can swerve around them.
To Be Continued….